girls want a fight
below is the blog i posted earlier on myspace. what follows is new thoughts regarding the subject...
girls want a fight
why is it girls want guys to fight for them? they want a guy that is willing to do whatever it takes to be with her. it's the whole damsel in distress, when not in distress thing. they want a guy that loves her so much that he would be as husbands are called to be in scripture, laying down their lives as Christ laid His down for the church. we seem to be caught in this mindset sometimes that makes us feel like their is something wrong with us, if the guy doesn't do that. why is that? is our self worth wrapped up in how much a guy is willing to do to win our hearts and our hands? and then what do we do if we have aided in their mindset to not fight for us. it's the whole shoot yourself in the foot syndrome. we sometimes sabatoge the best things in our lives because we are scared to get hurt again, scared to not be able to trust again, scared to let someones choice of whether we are worth fighting for or not, determine the rest of our lives. fear is an ugly thing. basing your self worth on what someone else is or isn't willing to do to win you is an ugly thing. how is it that so many women take something as beautiful as true love, and let fear turn it into something so ugly?
while i can relate so much in some ways to the situation that made these thoughts cross my mind, and pour out some of my own feelings above, i can not understand allowing anyone other than God determine your worth at any given moment. afterall it is where are heart is now, at this moment with Him. that is what He is concerned about..... wow....just had an epiphany there...He is concerned with everyone's heart at this moment. not in the past moments where they have made mistakes or fallen away. He is here in the moment. i need to think and pray about this now. write more later.
~we women sure do make things so much more complex than they need to be sometimes. we tend to make a mess of things too, purely based on emotions. sometimes that is. i really understand the wanting someone who is willing to fight for you mindset. you want to believe that there is one person out there who is willing to do anything to show you their love, devotion, committment, and overall desire for your well being to be looked after. we want to know that no matter what comes our way in life that we can count on that one person to do whatever necessary, or whatever is in their ability, to love us to the best of their ability. even when we screw up. even when we make things so much harder than they have to be sometimes. even when we let our emotions dictate more things than they should.
we want to have enough faith in our significant other's integrity that we know regardless of where they are, and what they are doing, we know that it is not damaging to us or our relationship with them. more importantly we want to know that no matter what, they are willing to do whatever is right by God first and foremost, so that we are able to have certainty in the knowledge that they will do right by us. so what happens when one of us falls? because that is going to happen. at some point or another we are going to let each other down. at what point do we know whether that sin that was committed, was indicative of our security in their integrity? i am certain that the only real answer to that question can come from God. He will let us know when the other person is able to carry the responsibility and accountability for us and our families. the problem we as women often run into, especially those of us that have had failed relationships in the past and even possibly issues from the current relationship, is that we can let emotions cloud our discernment and our decisions. it's scary that one ounce of fear or mistrust can alter one's entire life. it's even scarrier when we feel like Abraham giving up Isaac before the Lord as a sacrifice. we wonder if He will really be taking that person from us, or whether it is just for a season until He is finished doing whatever it is with them, to be sure that they are prepared or that we are where we need to be for them as well. preparation is so hard sometimes though... but that is another topic all together.
all i know is, i want a guy who will fight for me. who will love me so much that he is willing to fight through anything to be with me. even if that means fighting through my fears to show me what true love is. i want my prince in shining armor!
this would be so much easier if women were not so emotionally based all the time. like if we could turn a switch and be as logical as men sometimes, i think it would be a great help to us! not that we don't use logic, just mine is sometimes overridden by emotion. that's all.
disclaimer: to any and all feminists that read this... i am sure you feel like i have just set u back a couple decades. i am sure u would like an apology... unfortunately that won't be happening. i am telling it the way God created us to be. we are not less than men. we are equals. we are just created differently. that's all. we are all heirs to the same Kingdom. we all have the same Father. We just have to remember that He had a specific purpose for creating us the way He did. i for one, am thankful that He did. even if i think sometimes men have traits i wish i could obtain!
with that said....Good Night everyone. God bless.
girls want a fight
why is it girls want guys to fight for them? they want a guy that is willing to do whatever it takes to be with her. it's the whole damsel in distress, when not in distress thing. they want a guy that loves her so much that he would be as husbands are called to be in scripture, laying down their lives as Christ laid His down for the church. we seem to be caught in this mindset sometimes that makes us feel like their is something wrong with us, if the guy doesn't do that. why is that? is our self worth wrapped up in how much a guy is willing to do to win our hearts and our hands? and then what do we do if we have aided in their mindset to not fight for us. it's the whole shoot yourself in the foot syndrome. we sometimes sabatoge the best things in our lives because we are scared to get hurt again, scared to not be able to trust again, scared to let someones choice of whether we are worth fighting for or not, determine the rest of our lives. fear is an ugly thing. basing your self worth on what someone else is or isn't willing to do to win you is an ugly thing. how is it that so many women take something as beautiful as true love, and let fear turn it into something so ugly?
while i can relate so much in some ways to the situation that made these thoughts cross my mind, and pour out some of my own feelings above, i can not understand allowing anyone other than God determine your worth at any given moment. afterall it is where are heart is now, at this moment with Him. that is what He is concerned about..... wow....just had an epiphany there...He is concerned with everyone's heart at this moment. not in the past moments where they have made mistakes or fallen away. He is here in the moment. i need to think and pray about this now. write more later.
~we women sure do make things so much more complex than they need to be sometimes. we tend to make a mess of things too, purely based on emotions. sometimes that is. i really understand the wanting someone who is willing to fight for you mindset. you want to believe that there is one person out there who is willing to do anything to show you their love, devotion, committment, and overall desire for your well being to be looked after. we want to know that no matter what comes our way in life that we can count on that one person to do whatever necessary, or whatever is in their ability, to love us to the best of their ability. even when we screw up. even when we make things so much harder than they have to be sometimes. even when we let our emotions dictate more things than they should.
we want to have enough faith in our significant other's integrity that we know regardless of where they are, and what they are doing, we know that it is not damaging to us or our relationship with them. more importantly we want to know that no matter what, they are willing to do whatever is right by God first and foremost, so that we are able to have certainty in the knowledge that they will do right by us. so what happens when one of us falls? because that is going to happen. at some point or another we are going to let each other down. at what point do we know whether that sin that was committed, was indicative of our security in their integrity? i am certain that the only real answer to that question can come from God. He will let us know when the other person is able to carry the responsibility and accountability for us and our families. the problem we as women often run into, especially those of us that have had failed relationships in the past and even possibly issues from the current relationship, is that we can let emotions cloud our discernment and our decisions. it's scary that one ounce of fear or mistrust can alter one's entire life. it's even scarrier when we feel like Abraham giving up Isaac before the Lord as a sacrifice. we wonder if He will really be taking that person from us, or whether it is just for a season until He is finished doing whatever it is with them, to be sure that they are prepared or that we are where we need to be for them as well. preparation is so hard sometimes though... but that is another topic all together.
all i know is, i want a guy who will fight for me. who will love me so much that he is willing to fight through anything to be with me. even if that means fighting through my fears to show me what true love is. i want my prince in shining armor!
this would be so much easier if women were not so emotionally based all the time. like if we could turn a switch and be as logical as men sometimes, i think it would be a great help to us! not that we don't use logic, just mine is sometimes overridden by emotion. that's all.
disclaimer: to any and all feminists that read this... i am sure you feel like i have just set u back a couple decades. i am sure u would like an apology... unfortunately that won't be happening. i am telling it the way God created us to be. we are not less than men. we are equals. we are just created differently. that's all. we are all heirs to the same Kingdom. we all have the same Father. We just have to remember that He had a specific purpose for creating us the way He did. i for one, am thankful that He did. even if i think sometimes men have traits i wish i could obtain!
with that said....Good Night everyone. God bless.
posted by Jackson at 11:33 PM
1 Comments:
just read thru this again...how true it really is. girls want a guy that will fight everything and anything to do the right thing by them. girls want to be completely protected. mind, body, and soul.
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